Sunday, August 2, 2009

Dealing with hatred toward your unfaithful spouse and the other woman or man

To err is human to forgive is divine. You may try the human factor, but you can’t get help here. We wouldn’t know how.

Cry, let it all out. Just do it on Jesus’ broad shoulders. He understands you. He’s been there. While living on earth he got angry too--but sinned not. He understands abandonment and rejection, a man of sorrows despised, mocked, and even beaten to a pulp. The rest is history, but powerful. How he could hang on that cross and look at his persecutors and still pray, “Father forgive them.”

Romans 8:26Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groaning which cannot be uttered.
Allow the balm of Gilead to be anointed on your wound. Jesus is our excellent Physician. Words are powerful. Say, “I have great peace and love God's law and nothing shall offend me.” No matter how you FEEL, say it. Then later, we can’t say how much later; could be the next day, week, month… the pain will dissipate!

Hate your spouse’s and the other person's sin, but not them. You heard it said: hating is like eating poison and hoping the other person dies. No, that is not who you are as a new creature in Christ. You are peculiar and a partaker of a heavenly nature. So bless and not curse. Overcome evil with good.

Hebrews 12:15
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
We’ve postponed this subject for the “right time.” This morning’s church message brought it home: Think about how God’s people in the Bible suffered such persecution! How could they take it?
The answer: They caught a glimpse of glory! What can separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus? And He lives in His people.

Acts 7
54When they heard these things, they were cut to the heart, and they gnashed on him with their teeth.
55 But he, being full of the Holy Ghost, looked up stedfastly into heaven, and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing on the right hand of God,
56And said, Behold, I see the heavens opened, and the Son of man standing on the right hand of God.
57Then they cried out with a loud voice, and stopped their ears, and ran upon him with one accord,
58And cast him out of the city, and stoned him: and the witnesses laid down their clothes at a young man's feet, whose name was Saul.
59And they stoned Stephen, calling upon God, and saying, Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.
60 And he kneeled down, and cried with a loud voice, Lord, lay not this sin to their charge. And when he had said this, he fell asleep.

If we believe God, we would buy the pearl of great price Jesus talked about no matter what the cost. What if the pearl of great price is our soul? What if the pearl of great price means forgiving another? What would we give in exchange for the salvation of eternal being? It’s priceless. Heaven is too wonderful, hell is too horrible; looking forward to seeing our dear Savior Jesus leaves us speechless. Don't lose focus of the heavenly vision. Keep your eyes on Jesus the author and finisher of our faith.

Matthew 13:45-46
45Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:
46Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it.
Matthew 16:26
26For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
Jesus came to save us from our sins. He mercifully paid in full all our sin debt on the cross of Calvary. We must forgive other people's sins if we want our sins forgiven. This terrible experience you are going through--going through--(don’t camp there) is not going to spoil your relationship with God. Think about the words in the song that says to look full into the face of Jesus’ glorious face and the things on earth will grow STRANGELY dim.

Romans 8:18
For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

Deuteronomy 4:9
9Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons;
We don't live to ourselves and we don't die to ourselves. Your loved ones are watching how you are responding to this trial. No one is exempt from trials and tribulations. Just don't deal with them on your own. Let go and let God.

You have life ABUNDANTLY in Christ Jesus. Delight in Him, be busy about His business. Rejoice and again I say rejoice. Count your trial all joy. YOUR SPOUSE WILL NOTICE! YOUR SPOUSE WILL RATHER LIVE WITH YOU IN YOUR BEAUTIFUL, CLEAN, EXCITING TEMPLE RATHER THAN THE OTHER PERSON'S CAMP. Please keep in mind that this "other person" is also a devil's victim. This is a parent's beloved child or a close kin. Pray with mercy. The merciful shall obtain mercy. Pray as doing unto others as you would have them do unto you or a very close loved one.

With this being said, please examine the other posts on this blog, the Scriptures and prayers. God and His Word are one. God is love. God has put his unfailing love in you. He’ll see you through this.



13 Who is wise and understanding among you?


Let them show it by their good life,
by deeds done in the humility
that comes from wisdom.


14 But if you harbor

bitter envy
and selfish ambition
in your hearts,

do not boast about it or deny the truth.

15 Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven
but is earthly,

16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition,
there you find disorder
and every evil practice.


17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven
is first of all pure;

then peace-loving,



full of mercy and good fruit,

impartial and sincere.

18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.

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1 comment:

eli said...

I think this is one of the most challenging part for me. I dont hate my unfaithful husband, but I am very much angry with him. The woman with whom he is having an affair with, knows that hes married and that he has two little girls with me. Thinking of her makes me feel violent and bitter. I know that I shouldnt allow those negative thoughts and feelings to come across me. Shes proud of being with a married man and has shown no remorse to the pain shes caused to me and the our little girls. Its been a year that he and I have been separated and that they have been together. I get infuriated with jealousy, anger, and so much resentment. Yet, I still love this man, because I know the real him. Hes a great dad. We had alot of marital issues before his departure. The pain Ive felt and still feel to what he did to me, I sometimes dont know how I made it some many sleepless nights. I sometimes feel and think, The LORD isnt hearing my prayers to salvaging my marriage. My husband seems so confused as to what to do. Im very much confused as to what to do.. Let my marriage and move on. Fighting for this marriage has taken a toll on my spirit and mind. It has also blessed me in ways that im very thankful for. Lord, I want my marriage back, but if he is not the man for me then I need to move forward with my little girls and stop with all this bitterness.